They say nothing in the world can stop a man with positive attitude
from achieving his goals just like nothing in the world can help a man with a negative
attitude achieve anything. Everything we are, everything we have achieved, is everything
that we have thought about. We have achieved what we thought we could achieve
and we have stretched as far as we could have allowed ourselves.
Positive attitude
is an enduring belief that all will be well even in the face of adversity and negativities. You cannot achieve your goals as a sales
person, business person, employee or parent with a defeated mind. It is good to
take note of the fact that mental attitude has far reaching effects on self
confidence and esteem.
This is how you can boost your attitude:
a) Understand and appreciate yourself.
Take a self assessment test based on answering the following
questions;
(i)
Who am I?, which seeks to define both physical and
emotional aspects of your whole self. It seeks to assess your talents, skills,
mental predisposition, biases, beliefs and everything that goes in to defining
who you are.
(ii)
Where have I been?, which seeks to define your past experiences, what lessons
you are bringing from your past, the achievements that you have and the attempts
to success that you have tried your hands on.
(iii)
Where am I?, which is a question that seeks to
assess your current position in terms of financial ability, state of mind,
physical health, physical location and ideas.
(iv)
Where do I want to be?, which seeks to define
your visions, dreams, plans and goals. It also defines a clear road map of how
you are going to achieve them.
Self knowledge is the foundation of positive mental
attitude. You cannot like what you do not know. It will help you to know
yourself a little bit more before you can begin to like yourself.
b) Be emotionally intelligent.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to make healthy
choices based on accurately identifying, understanding and managing your own
feelings and those of others. In order to
understand yourself emotionally, you need to ask yourself these questions that I
call ‘the guide to emotional open surgery.’
(i)
What triggers my emotions?
Here what you need to know is; what turns you own emotionally, what makes
you angry, glad, sad or scared. What things do you do to yourself and others
that turn you on emotionally? What things
do others do that make you emotional?
(ii)
How do I express these emotions
How do you react when you are angry, sad, glad and scared? How does it
affect your image? How does it affect your relationships with others? How do
your actions affect others?
(iii)
How can I cope with my own emotions?
These question seeks to interrogate how you can manipulate your emotions
so as to shape others opinion of you. Is it possible that you can replace some
of your negative reactions to unpleasant emotions with positive or neutral
ones? For example, instead of banging the table or shouting when angry, you
could calm down or walk away.
Self awareness, self management, social awareness and relationships
management are some of the skills you need to master in order to be emotionally
intelligent.
c) Be honest and truthful in all things.
Honesty is a fragment of a larger character called
integrity. There is an old saying that “the truth shall set you free.” Being honest
about your emotions and expectations as you interact with others will present
you as a mature individual that can be counted on by others. A sense of importance and being needed will
boost your self esteem. As parents, you might need to do this in order to be good
role models to your children.
d) Have respect for yourself and others.
Like they say, you cannot give that which you do not
possess. Unless if you have a great sense of admiration and confidence in your
abilities and qualities it will be next to impossible to develop an iota of
respect for others. High opinion of others creates humility which mostly a
likable character.
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