Stop the Victim-speak.
One morning while on my way to
work, I sat close to an old woman. She looked frail and weary. As usual, I do
not like sitting close to someone I haven’t known. So I said hi to her and I introduced
myself. This was my biggest mistake of that morning, so to speak. I can’t remember her name because I am
positive that she did not introduce herself. But I can still remember all the
whining and complaining. It was such a painful one hour. I couldn’t wait to get to
town and literally run away from her. She was poisonous. She did nothing but complain
about everything and everyone. This then got me thinking……
You may not be fully in control
of what happens to you. True. You can’t control what happens to you, but you
are firmly in control of how you chose to respond to situations. You are responsible
for your own words and actions. The words that come out of your mouth can
either bring closer to your mountain top or they can bring you closer to the
bottom of the valley. If great words come out of your mouth then great things
shall follow you.
Stop banging on already closed
doors
It is Saturday morning and I am
woken up by loud bangs on my neighbor’s gate, I check to see, because I am
aware that my neighbor and his family are on a holiday and are not home. I see
a young man who apparently wants to drop some utility bills. That’s not my
concern. My concern is that it does not matter how loud he bangs the gate, it
is never going to open.
Sometimes in life we need to
strike a balance between making things happen and deliberately letting things
unfold before us. Please do not get me wrong. Work hard. Do your part. Be persistent.
Keep coming back. But there comes a time when we need to let God do the rest. If
you have tried everything possible to realize an outcome and nothing seems to
happen, it won’t hurt you to take a break and rethink. May be you are going
about it the wrong way. Stop trying so hard. Look around to see if an alternative
exists. May be its not the right time, may be its not in your best interest. I believe
in the old adage, when one door closes, another one opens. When you let go
something that isn’t working, you create some space on your hands to hold new
things. If you are in a relationship where you are giving everything you’ve got and it won’t work,
may be its time to quit and move on.
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